A Staggering Life Changing Event – When Holy Spirit Enters the Relationship
“You have been called, together with your brother, to the most holy function this world contains. It is the only one that has no limits, and reaches out to every broken fragment of the Sonship with healing and uniting comfort. This is offered you, in your holy relationship.” T-18.I.13:1-3
True Holy Relationships are relatively uncommon. As yet we don’t have many demonstrations of these advanced relationships in the world, to serve as role models to follow. Hence we tend to try to imagine what a Holy Relationship might look like based largely upon a past filled with special relationships. In my own experience, the Holy Relationship is the opposite of what we imagine “love” to be here in this world.
It’s an entirely new paradigm because it refuses to allow fear, concern or sacrifice to taint the perfect Love that Spirit is leading us to. “When brothers join in purpose in the world of fear, they stand already at the edge of the real world.” T-30.V.7:1
A common question often asked is this, “How will we know when the Holy Spirit has entered the relationship?” Let me put it this way, when the Holy Spirit enters a relationship on the sincere invitation of two or more people, it is an extraordinary event! There is no subtlety here. It is an undeniably supernatural experience. This heralds the literal beginning of a whole new world, complete with heavenly laws that only very few have ever seen let alone embraced.
Once the Holy Spirit enters this divine union, it sets off a chain of events which are not even imaginable. The process or evolution of this union is sanctified by the Holy Spirit together with all the Angels in Heaven. Each and every erroneous belief, mistaken idol, misdirected miracle-impulse, body-focused desire, and false law, is offered up for the Holy Spirit to purify.
“When the Holy Spirit changed the purpose of your relationship by exchanging yours for His, the goal He placed there was extended to every situation in which you enter, or will ever enter. And every situation was thus made free of the past, which would have made it purposeless.” T-17.VII.9:5-6
Everything is to be healed. The concept and purpose of the body in particular must be healed and this includes both the painful aspects and the pleasurable ones as well. The ego’s deeply coveted pursuit of completion through the body, including its desire for pleasure, must be re-purposed with Spirit. And the Holy Relationship provides the perfect means and support to engage deeply in this divine undoing process.
We must be wholly willing to un-learn the world’s version of love and caring which is really attack. The Holy Relationship is the Holy Grail and will lead us to the ego dream’s final conclusion which is our complete awakening from the dream of bodies and time. And when two or more wholly devote themselves to this…the entire Sonship is healed along with them. This is salvation.
Through your holy relationship, reborn and blessed in every holy instant you do not arrange, thousands will rise to Heaven with you.” …“It will become the happy dream through which He can spread joy to thousands on thousands who believe that love is fear, not happiness.” T-18.V.3:1, 5:5
Two who share a Common State of Mind
Once two people have committed to a Holy Relationship and Holy Spirit has entered into it, then the other characteristics of Holy Relationship will be made manifest as well. Included here, are the following:
They join in the truly common purpose of forgiveness, as we have already covered. However in addition to this, Jesus tells us that these two (or more) will experience a “common state of mind”. Two people share a common state of mind where not just one, but both people actively participate in the forgiveness process, that both may be happily healed as the one Holy Self. And as this shared mind is healed, the idols which made up the gap between them fade and disappear.
“Yet reason sees a holy relationship as what it is; a common state of mind, where both give errors gladly to correction, that both may happily be healed as one.” T-22.III.9:7
As a consequence they progressively experience more Holy Instants together while beliefs in the past and investments in the future fall away.
The function of God’s teachers is to save time via miracles and the Holy Relationship. The path of Holy Relationship is a special curriculum, intended for those who would teach and learn a unique form of awakening. Yet all paths which teach that guilt and fear are unreal are helpful. Holy Relationship, due to its truly shared common purpose and goal, collapses time thereby de-materializing the illusory gap along with its contents (see The Gap Diagram Sequence) which has separated us from our brothers, our Holy Self and God.
“For what one thinks, the other will experience with him. What can this mean except your mind and your brother’s are one?” T-22.VI.14:2-3
The partners experience a melting away of the barrier between their minds, and their hearts burst open to receive the magnitude of Love’s full illumination. As they witness the majesty of changeless innocence in each other, this becomes all they desire to see and feel. Once they feel this magnitude of oneness its joy sparks the roaring fire of the most ancient yearning of all time; our only True Desire, to return to Love as Love itself.
When either one of the partners is tempted to perceive fear which includes sickness, pain, anger, lack, doubt, conflict, control, defense, etc, the other can heal him by accepting the Atonement on his behalf. Having set the goal in advance – to see their brother’s innocence – they are perfectly able to extend healing to each other at the request of either partner. Yet the miracle always blesses both.
The following passage is too important not to include here in its entirety:
“When you feel the holiness of your relationship is threatened by anything, stop instantly and offer the Holy Spirit your willingness, in spite of fear, to let Him exchange this instant for the holy one that you would rather have. He will never fail in this. But forget not that your relationship is one, and so it must be that whatever threatens the peace of one is an equal threat to the other. The power of joining its blessing lies in the fact that it is now impossible for you or your brother to experience fear alone, or to attempt to deal with it alone. Never believe that this is necessary, or even possible. Yet just as this is impossible, so is it equally impossible that the holy instant come to either of you without the other. And it will come to both at the request of either.”
“Whoever is saner at the time the threat is perceived should remember how deep is his indebtedness to the other and how much gratitude is due him, and be glad that he can pay his debt by bringing happiness to both. Let him remember this, and say:
“I desire this holy instant for myself, that I may share it with my brother, whom I love. It is not possible that I can have it without him, or he without me. Yet it is wholly possible for us to share it now. And so I choose this instant as the one to offer to the Holy Spirit, that His blessing may descend on us, and keep us both in peace.” T-18.V.6,7.
As I mentioned earlier the goal of Holiness is inevitable. The only thing that appears to separate an unhealed relationship from a Holy one is time. And as you can see, when two are completely willing to join in overlooking the seeming gap together, then healing is truly irrevocable.
A Joint Special Function
This now leads me to share about what Jesus terms as the Holy Relationship’s “joint special function” in the salvation of the world. Each individual is given a special function in salvation. Yet each Holy Relationship takes on its own “joint” special function which is so exciting!
“Each holy relationship must enter here, to learn its special function in the Holy Spirit’s plan, now that it shares His purpose.” T-20.IV.6:6
This joint function may begin early in the relationship but becomes more refined as the two (or more) continue to commit more deeply to their truly mutual purpose. The specific form their joint special function takes may differ however every Holy Relationship is blessed with the opportunity to manifest the outcome of this most sacred of all vows:
“I want the peace of God.”… “No one can mean these words and not be healed.” … “The world would be completely changed, should any two agree these words express the only thing they want.” “Two minds with one intent become so strong that what they will becomes the Will of God.” … “There would be no further sorrow possible for you in any form; in any place or time. Heaven would be completely given back to full awareness, memory of God entirely restored, the resurrection of all creation fully recognized.” W-185.2:1,9,3:1,1:3-4
Effectively, if two or more in Holy Relationship joined as the one Will of God, the idols which previously sustained the imaginary gap would disappear. There would be a comprehensive time/space collapse for all mankind. It would herald an almighty paradigm shift resulting in the increasing right-minded perception and experience of the Real World.
“You will remember everything the instant you desire it wholly, for if to desire wholly is to create, you will have willed away the separation, returning your mind simultaneously to your Creator and your creations. Knowing Them you will have no wish to sleep, but only the desire to waken and be glad. Dreams will be impossible because you will want only truth, and being at last your will, it will be yours.” T-10.I.4:1-3
The Holy Relationship’s completion is brought about by these two fulfilling their special joint function. This is the stage where the teachers of God in Holy Relationship graduate and become True miracle workers. And as these two advance in their devotion and trust then their closing of the primordial gap must ultimately effect the entire Sonship.
“Think not that your forgiveness of your brother serves but you two alone. For the whole new world rests in the hands of every two who enter here to rest. And as they rest, the face of Christ shines on them and they remember the laws of God, forgetting all the rest and yearning only to have His laws perfectly fulfilled in them and all their brothers.” T-20.IV.7:2-4
From my current experience, and in listening to Jesus directly, the advanced Holy Relationship is the catalyst by which we overcome the laws of the world by reversing them. This is where True miracle working becomes common place just as Jesus healed the sick and raised the dead. As we awaken from the illusion of the body as “cause” we come to recognize and embrace the fact that the body is merely an effect in the mind. It cannot change, sicken, heal, age or die of itself. Only the mind directs all changes in the body.
When two or more join in withdrawing their agreement to believe the idols of sickness in the gap; their union as the Will of God, erases all appearances of separation. As the cause is healed so are its effects. Yet when two or more join together in searching for truth, the ego can no longer defend its lack of content. The fact of union tells them it is not true.” T-14.X.9:6-7
I believe that in the advanced Holy Relationship we finally learn, embody and demonstrate the first miracle principle, “There is no order of difficulty in miracles.” Physical miracles re-establish God’s Laws here in the dream by reversing the ego’s laws of separation. And Jesus said that we would one day do as He did…and more. Thus, we come to realize that in the “joint will of the Son in union with the Father,” dominion over the relative world is natural (See Chapter titled, “Overcoming the Body”).
Ultimately, the ego’s central dream – of death – is overcome when two or more join in genuine advanced Holy Relationship. And this is where sickness, pain, conflict, loss, lack and death are overcome.
In the beginning, two or more agreed to imagine separation – bodies, time, world – and now those two finally show up to reverse their timeworn choice along with all its seeming consequences. Thus the Holy Relationship is the gateway to the final dream in time, the Real World. “Where two have joined for healing, God is there. And He has guaranteed that He will hear and answer them in truth.” P-2.V.4:4-5
“The holy relationship, a major step toward the perception of the real world, is learned.”… “The holy relationship is a phenomenal teaching accomplishment.” T-17.V.2:1,3
Inclusive Extension of Love
In stark contrast to the exclusivity of the special relationship, the advanced Holy Relationship is inclusive in that as it grows in trust, it becomes a powerful magnet to draw in those who also commit to being unequivocal in their desire to awaken from the dream of separation.
A Holy Relationship is much like a central sun in that it attracts its own constellation of people who hear the divine Call. In my own experience, at the time of writing this book, my central Holy Relationship has extended to include two more advancing Holy Relationships as well as a growing spiritual family of more than 50 people in our global online Total Transformation (TTC) Community. These are like-minded people who genuinely desire to join together in the Holy Spirit’s truly common purpose of forgiveness and Holy Relationship.
I’m presently experiencing the Holiness of my Relationship extending, radiating outward and bringing in those who share the same purpose.
“The extension of the Holy Spirit’s purpose from your relationship to others, to bring them gently in.” … “Reason now can lead you and your brother to the logical conclusion of your union. It must extend, as you extended when you and he joined.” T-19.IV.1:5, T-22.in.4:5-6
Jesus shares some important content in the context of Holy Relationships: Certain Holy Relationship partners have been assigned to you, and they will begin to look for you as soon as you have answered the Call. In its original form the quote goes like this: “Certain pupils have been assigned to each of God’s teachers, and they will begin to look for him as soon as he has answered the Call.” M-2.1:1
“Time has been readjusted to help us do, together, what your separate pasts would hinder. You have gone past fear, for no two minds can join in the desire for love without love’s joining them.” T-18.III.7:6-7
Back to Basics
While we may desire to enjoy Holy Relationships we cannot possibly have (or get) that which we our self are not first willing to give. Giving is receiving. Therefore, our experience of Holiness in relationship will be in direct proportion to our degree of trust and faith in our brother. Do we trust him or her? Are we radically honest and emotionally transparent without judgment or guilt-trips? Do we have secret agendas? Are we consciously accountable for our projections? Do we practice being defenseless? And are we grateful for each time we’re triggered because without these forgiveness opportunities, we could never find, let alone heal the singular source of all our suffering (our own unconscious self-hatred projected outward).
Within the Holy Relationship lay the whole way out of our distorted reversal of all the laws of God. There is only one ego and one Holy Self. What I see in another is always coming from either the ego’s filter or the Holy Self. Put simply then, to the degree I am triggered by anyone or anything reveals the extent to which I have projected my unconscious fear of God (my Holy Self as Love). There is only one of us here in this holographic dream. Everything I feel and experience is exactly what I secretly believe I deserve. Only what I have not given in any situation can be lacking.
Everyone who triggers me is here to help me see my unconscious desire for separation so as I can finally heal it once and for all. No one can abandon me. No one can betray me unless I have first abandoned and betrayed myself.
Painful relationships obscure their divine purpose in our lives and deny us their life-giving gifts while we choose to cling to the belief that we were unfairly treated. If there is no one separate from us out there then who appeared to hurt us? And which self feels attacked? It could only be the false self.
The ego uses all relationships to confirm, protect and defend its false identity and the special love which supports it. The Holy Spirit, on the other hand, values relationships only to the degree they have the potential for becoming a Holy Relationship. “Relationships in particular must be properly perceived, and all dark cornerstones of unforgiveness removed. Otherwise the old thought system still has a basis for return.” M-9.1:8-9
Holy Relationship offers a chance to learn that giving is receiving. We learn that we have it to give already otherwise we could not give it. How in the world will we ever realize the sanctity and security of our glorious and innocent Holy Self unless we are willing to see it in another? In fact it is by seeing it in another that we recognize and accept it in our Self. This is the one Christ in which we share.
Jesus tells us that the Holy Relationship is the means by which every situation we experience is transformed. Once we invite the Holy Spirit to replace the ego’s unconscious relationship goal with His then a miraculous transfer takes place whereby His Goal of Holiness and healing extends itself to every situation we will encounter.
He also explains that the final phase of the dream, the advanced phase of trust, takes two people…not one alone, but two. Each one of us is assigned a savior, whose special function is to release us both from separation. He says that we will find this person when we are well and truly ready to behold the Christ. And what does that mean in practical terms? It means that we must genuinely and consistently desire to see another’s guiltlessness more than we want to condemn them. It means that we must be willing, we must want to see no sin, no blame in him or her. Think about that.
Are you ready?
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